SUNDAY GRATITUDE – 1st January 2017

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Sunday Gratitude

It’s not the years, months, weeks or days that we should savour, it’s the moments!

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A New Year a New Way

How will 2017 be different for you? Is your goals page still blank? Have you set goals that seem to be fading fast?

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I love January, Spring is just around the corner everything feels so fresh and new. Everyone seems a little more positive and has a little more pep in their step.

We are setting goals like “I’ve got to get in shape” or “I’ve got to quit smoking” or “I need to make more money” and while these are all great goals, they’re not really useful as ways to guide our activities throughout the year. It’s 2017! So maybe it’s time to try a new way.

Goal setting in of itself is one of the easiest ways to increase your motivation and enhance your performance. In the 1960s, Psychologists Edwin Locke and Gary Latham carried out dozens of studies and found that setting goals increased performance and productivity by 11% to 25%. So to illustrate, in our average work day of 8 hours, we would get up to an extra 2 hours of work a day. Woo hoo! World conquest here we come.

Okay, cool your burners and let’s get real for a moment! Not all goals are created equal. When was the last time you achieved a goal that you set for the entire year, regardless of when you started? A whole 365 days of consistent determination and persistence to achieve 1 goal. Richard Wiseman, a British psychologist published his 2007 research study into goals and his study showed that 88% of people fail.

So in order to be one of the 12% of people who achieve their goals, we need a goals Roadmap that at it core is made up of  3 elements:

ACTION

PROGRESS

RESULTS

Imagine that “I’ve got to get in shape” goal is our goal for the year. Firstly, it’s too vague, unfocused. Does it mean? Lose weight! Compete in a triathlon! Win Olympic gold! We need goals with clarity, laser like focus.

So first, let’s convert our “I’ve got to get in shape” goal into my C.L.E.A.R formula for example, “I want to cycle 1000 miles this year”. It’s big! It’s bold! It’s doable!

With a vague goal like get in shape – we’ll waste our valuable time trying to work out how to get a shape, but if the goal is cycle 1000 miles in 2016 you have already answered the question of “How” to get in shape. You have your result.

Secondly, we need to break the goal down into milestones, which I call “Relay Goals”. A simple way to explain a Relay Goal, is to think of a relay race where each person runs doing their part to win, passing on the baton to the next runner until the whole race is complete. These Relay Goals will hold you accountable and keep you on track for your long term goals in manageable bites. How many bites?

“Four is the magic number”

Why 4? Because 3 months, 90 days, 13 weeks times 4 equals a year and that about a long as we humans can concentrate on working towards a single goal.

So imagine your January Relay Goal is to cycle 250 miles and the same for April, July and October. Do you think we can achieve our C.L.E.A.R Goal by December? Yes, we can. You have your progress.

Remember you can start your goals any time of the year, ‘Goals not are just for New Year’s.’

Now I have simplified our C.L.E.A.R Goal into manageable steps but imagine it has been years since you were last on a bike, that first month you might want to set the first Relay Goal a little lower. We want to ensure success at every milestone! You might want to join a cycling club or start cycling to school, college or work every day and integrate your Relay Goal into your life. You have your action.

“Yard by yard, life is hard. Inch by inch, life’s a cinch.” John Bytheway

 But, if 3 months sounds like a long time, remember that’s only 13 weeks and cycling 20 miles a week for 13 weeks is actually 260 miles. This is generally, where people stumble with goal setting as there are no clearly defined steps on how to achieve the goal. We need our Roadmap.

My next piece of advice.

“Let you network support you but don’t go telling everyone”

We need our community or network to support us to achieve our goals and stay motivated, people that we can share your highs and lows with. Friends who will hold you accountable when we stumble and help raise us up.

But beware!

I have some science on this internal process of the mind, when we achieve something our body’s produce a congratulatory chemical release as reward. Conversely, when we tell someone or many someone’s about your planned goals and they show us their approval, we get the same congratulatory chemical fix and guess what happens next … NOTHING! Most people don’t even get past telling everyone what they intend before they forget and stop because as far as your mind is concerned your goal has been achieved.

Like I said don’t have to go it alone, leverage your network, join clubs or friends who are doing what you want to achieve, get an app that tracks you, or go virtual and join an online forum.

Finally, don’t forgot to reward your successes as you achieve your goals.

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How To Not Quit At Anything And Be Successful Today!

Feel like you are about to burnout or quit? Like things are not working out and doubt has set in saying, “maybe I can’t do this.”

guest-post-anastasia-v-buttonMany of us storm the gates of a new project or opportunity with fire and energy but something happens down the road… you begin to lose our energy, drive and motivation. You feel the struggles weighing down on you even though you are pushing so hard towards achievement. Perhaps you will quit and give up.

There is one small change you can make to gain more momentum and gain more results. It does deal with mindset, but I am not going to preach about mindset because it is spoken about all the time. However, there is one key component that is NOT talked or written about much when you are on the warpath to mindset motivation! I’m going to give it to you, but first let’s start this new mindset with a story:

Not terribly long ago I was in your shoes. I was pressing, pushing and working so hard to get more and more results! Unfortunately, I wasn’t making much progress except to add more quarters to my profanity jar at home. I was almost to the point of burnout.

I was in my first year of business and I was 8 months down the road and I had only made $1,000 US dollars. Not bad for a newbie in the entrepreneurial business but I felt like I was failing. I am a very impatient person, especially when it comes to myself, my success and my results and at this point I wasn’t making any of those. I still had to pay my rent, bills and eating food is always nice and essential.

I was positive, always looking for more opportunities, joint ventures, speaking engagements and marketing for customers. My mindset was in the place that all the great thought leaders talk about: have a great attitude and remaining positive. The problem was I was beginning to loose faith in myself even though I would force myself to remain positive and pretend to have a great attitude.

It wasn’t until I decided to change one thing about my mindset that changed everything within 24-hours!

I decided to be patient with my outcome and myself. Didn’t I say earlier that I am a very impatient person, especially when it comes to my activities? It wasn’t necessarily patience that I added to my mindset it was to ability to give myself some slack!

Imagine that you are playing the piano. Starting out you may tune some of the strings, learn the keys and begin to play. But as time goes on you get frustrated and doubt creeps in and your piano playing starts to falter and be imperfect. So you think that you need to tighten the piano strings. You are pulling and pulling those strings trying to make everything work but you start to pull to hard where the strings became off key. Now when you play music the piano sounds strained and off tune and the piano strings will soon snap because of the tightness!

Isn’t going after what you want at times feel like you are playing a piano out of tune? You are working so hard but nothing seems to sound right?

I realized I was pulling my strings too tight and that I had to give my strings some slack to go back to being in harmony. I relaxed and decided to accept that it may take more time than I desired to reach my goals. So instead of giving up the piano entirely I decided to give my piano strings some slack… I gave myself some slack and decided to keep moving towards my goals, just at a slower rate.

The moment I gave myself slack and accepted that it may take more time to accomplish my desires than I wanted things started to happen!

I was struggling for investors in my business and was hurting for money – welcome to the beginnings of entrepreneurship, right? Within 24-hours I get a call from a private investor that they want to put $30,000 in my business and three other smaller investors. In total, I raised $35,000 within two days! I was in disbelief! Here I was the day before thinking I would have to get a part-time job and extend my plans only for them to come about! A week later I got two coaching clients and gained two additional investors for my business. That month I had received $40,000! That was more than what I had made the two previous years, combined (yes, I know it’s a sad story)!

Since that ‘slacking’ day my success has blown off my glass ceiling in my mind, taken me to places I NEVER thought I would be within this time frame. Everything has accelerated and when I feel like I am pushing harder and harder I always reflect back to that moment, analyze where I am in this moment and if I need to give some slack.

There is tug and pull with success. You have to push and push (and I encourage you to keep pushing) to have that take-charge plan for success. That being said, remember to be aware and open that there is a time to be still, reflect, relax and accept. Sometimes you have to open yourself and be vulnerable so that opportunity can flow to you instead of forcing opportunity to open for you.

You know the saying that ‘life is a marathon, not a sprint’? Success and dreams are also marathons. You will have points where you can sprint, and do so, but remember that you are in this for the long haul and to remember that giving yourself enough slack to slow down is not a bad thing. In fact, it is part of the journey!

Anastasia Button

Author | Speaker | Coach | Millennial

#NewJobNewLife: The Millennial’s Take-Charge Plan For Success

www.NewJobNewLifeBook.com

Where’s your Va Va Voom gone?

 

Refocus on your Core Values

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In amongst the pre-Christmas celebrations, the lights, the parties, reconnecting with old friends and making new ones, have you lost your business focus, your drive, your mojo?

Maybe you feel:

  • Like everything feels like a chore and as though you’re putting in too much effort for not much return.
  • Stressed
  • A lack of control of what going on around you.
  • Busy but like you’re not getting anywhere.

 

“Kites rise highest against the wind – not with it.” Winston Churchill

This is the perfect time to be perfecting your laser-like focus for 2017, because that date of January 1st is the date that signals new opportunities.

Before we start a quick disclaimer:

Not all values weigh up equally or in the same way for your entire life.

Try this:

Do you agree or disagree with the following statements?

  • It’s okay to leave the house without brushing your teeth.
  • An eye for an eye. A tooth for a tooth.
  • Never talk to strangers on public transport.
  • Money doesn’t buy happiness.
  • People value you, on what you look like, not on who you are.
  • Santa Claus is real.

It’s you core values that helps you decide which your statements you agree or disagree with. Think of them as your internal NAVI (navigation) system.

Some of your Core Values:

  • Serve you and other don’t.
  • Are fluid while other are fixed and unmoveable.
  • Were passed to you and other you learned for yourself.
  • Have grown stronger over the years.
  • Have changed over time.

Va Va Voom, where are you?

Step 1 Know what truly drives you

Ask yourself:

“What today, in my life, is the most important to me?” And write down what every comes into your head. Take up to 5 minutes and write everything down, no filtering, no judgements. This is all you, all the time and no one else.

Next ask yourself:

“What does the word(s) [insert life area here] mean to me?”

  • Physical Health
  • Emotional Health
  • Environment
  • Financial/Money
  • Lifestyle/Leisure/Fun
  • Friends/Family
  • Significant other
  • Purpose/Career
  • Personal Growth
  • Spiritual Growth

Spend the time to go through each question, taking about 2-5minutes answering each. Again, write down everything without censoring yourself. This exercise is about getting your values out of you and in writing.

Step 2 Find your top three values

Which three mean the most to you? Only you can answer this and your top three maybe immediately obvious but if not re-read and rate them 1-10.

Then for each of your top three values write your definition (what that values means to you) and your statement (what it means for you to be successfully living that value).

An example:

Value to me means

Success in Value is…

“You’re demonstrating a courage that most people can’t even fathom: giving it all away in order to have yourself.” Iyanla Vanzant

If it’s not working, dream bigger

“There is enough realism in the world, it’s the dream action takers who create change in theirs and others lives.” Jamila T Jeffers

Step 3 Commit Yourself

Ask yourself, “How do my current life, work, and relationships reflect my core values?”

Step 4 Track the way you are spending your time

Over the next few days discover how much your core values are reflected in how you are living. Each time you do something that is an example one of you living core values write it down.

How you live your days becomes your reality and it is very common to find that your core values are not always being reflected in your day-to-day life.

That can be an uncomfortable realisation.

At times, there is a gulf that must be bridged that requires some life changes.

I am here to help if you need me, email at jamila@jtjeffers.com or a message via Facebook

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3 things that you can do to set yourself on the path to success

 

Now that’s it’s officially December and the countdown to Christmas will be swiftly followed by New Year’s Eve and 2017.

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It’s a great time for every ‘preneur’ to reflect on what has been accomplished (or not), during the last twelve months and then get ready, get set and get CLEAR on your goals for the new year.

Goal setting is easy enough, it’s achieving them can be a little trickier so when considering what you’re going for make sure that your setting them according to your personal and preneurial aspirations and values, where you see yourself moving towards.

There are 3 things that you can do to set yourself on the path to success in 2017,

  1. Daydream a little

Ask you yourself what would your perfect day look like.

Where do you live?

What does your bedroom look like?

What time would you rise?

What would you eat for breakfast?

What would you be wearing?

Who would be with you?

What would you do in the morning, the afternoon or at night?

What would you eat for lunch?

Who would you speak to? What would you talk about?

What do you do that enables you to live this way?

  1. Start acknowledging your achievements

If you have children or remember being a child, coming home with your artist masterpiece that would be put up on the fridge to be displayed in the place of honour for all to see.

Your achievement equals that masterpiece and celebrating your successes and achievements equals being displayed on the fridge.

Celebrate them all, big and small. The more you celebrate the more you will have to celebrate.

  1. Get CLEAR! Use my CLEAR Formula

C is for Clarity

Clearly outline exactly want you want to achieve, your why, by when and define what achieving your goal looks like

L is for Leverage

Leverage the things that you are already doing well, the people that you know who and help and support you

E if for Engage

Do something and keep on going. Don’t be afraid of action!

A is for Analyse

What worked, what didn’t, what kind of actions get you the best results and why?

R is Reset and Repeat

What are your next steps to achieving your overall goal or next goal and repeat your successes until you achieved what you defined as success?

 

 

Hey ask yourself

 

What are you passionate about? What do you want more of it your life?

Where do you to be in your relationships, financially, emotionally?

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