Feel like you are about to burnout or quit? Like things are not working out and doubt has set in saying, “maybe I can’t do this.”
Many of us storm the gates of a new project or opportunity with fire and energy but something happens down the road… you begin to lose our energy, drive and motivation. You feel the struggles weighing down on you even though you are pushing so hard towards achievement. Perhaps you will quit and give up.
There is one small change you can make to gain more momentum and gain more results. It does deal with mindset, but I am not going to preach about mindset because it is spoken about all the time. However, there is one key component that is NOT talked or written about much when you are on the warpath to mindset motivation! I’m going to give it to you, but first let’s start this new mindset with a story:
Not terribly long ago I was in your shoes. I was pressing, pushing and working so hard to get more and more results! Unfortunately, I wasn’t making much progress except to add more quarters to my profanity jar at home. I was almost to the point of burnout.
I was in my first year of business and I was 8 months down the road and I had only made $1,000 US dollars. Not bad for a newbie in the entrepreneurial business but I felt like I was failing. I am a very impatient person, especially when it comes to myself, my success and my results and at this point I wasn’t making any of those. I still had to pay my rent, bills and eating food is always nice and essential.
I was positive, always looking for more opportunities, joint ventures, speaking engagements and marketing for customers. My mindset was in the place that all the great thought leaders talk about: have a great attitude and remaining positive. The problem was I was beginning to loose faith in myself even though I would force myself to remain positive and pretend to have a great attitude.
It wasn’t until I decided to change one thing about my mindset that changed everything within 24-hours!
I decided to be patient with my outcome and myself. Didn’t I say earlier that I am a very impatient person, especially when it comes to my activities? It wasn’t necessarily patience that I added to my mindset it was to ability to give myself some slack!
Imagine that you are playing the piano. Starting out you may tune some of the strings, learn the keys and begin to play. But as time goes on you get frustrated and doubt creeps in and your piano playing starts to falter and be imperfect. So you think that you need to tighten the piano strings. You are pulling and pulling those strings trying to make everything work but you start to pull to hard where the strings became off key. Now when you play music the piano sounds strained and off tune and the piano strings will soon snap because of the tightness!
Isn’t going after what you want at times feel like you are playing a piano out of tune? You are working so hard but nothing seems to sound right?
I realized I was pulling my strings too tight and that I had to give my strings some slack to go back to being in harmony. I relaxed and decided to accept that it may take more time than I desired to reach my goals. So instead of giving up the piano entirely I decided to give my piano strings some slack… I gave myself some slack and decided to keep moving towards my goals, just at a slower rate.
The moment I gave myself slack and accepted that it may take more time to accomplish my desires than I wanted things started to happen!
I was struggling for investors in my business and was hurting for money – welcome to the beginnings of entrepreneurship, right? Within 24-hours I get a call from a private investor that they want to put $30,000 in my business and three other smaller investors. In total, I raised $35,000 within two days! I was in disbelief! Here I was the day before thinking I would have to get a part-time job and extend my plans only for them to come about! A week later I got two coaching clients and gained two additional investors for my business. That month I had received $40,000! That was more than what I had made the two previous years, combined (yes, I know it’s a sad story)!
Since that ‘slacking’ day my success has blown off my glass ceiling in my mind, taken me to places I NEVER thought I would be within this time frame. Everything has accelerated and when I feel like I am pushing harder and harder I always reflect back to that moment, analyze where I am in this moment and if I need to give some slack.
There is tug and pull with success. You have to push and push (and I encourage you to keep pushing) to have that take-charge plan for success. That being said, remember to be aware and open that there is a time to be still, reflect, relax and accept. Sometimes you have to open yourself and be vulnerable so that opportunity can flow to you instead of forcing opportunity to open for you.
You know the saying that ‘life is a marathon, not a sprint’? Success and dreams are also marathons. You will have points where you can sprint, and do so, but remember that you are in this for the long haul and to remember that giving yourself enough slack to slow down is not a bad thing. In fact, it is part of the journey!
Author | Speaker | Coach | Millennial
#NewJobNewLife: The Millennial’s Take-Charge Plan For Success