Refocus on your Core Values
In amongst the pre-Christmas celebrations, the lights, the parties, reconnecting with old friends and making new ones, have you lost your business focus, your drive, your mojo?
Maybe you feel:
- Like everything feels like a chore and as though you’re putting in too much effort for not much return.
- A lack of control of what going on around you.
- Busy but like you’re not getting anywhere.
“Kites rise highest against the wind – not with it.” Winston Churchill
This is the perfect time to be perfecting your laser-like focus for 2017, because that date of January 1st is the date that signals new opportunities.
Before we start a quick disclaimer:
Not all values weigh up equally or in the same way for your entire life.
Do you agree or disagree with the following statements?
- It’s okay to leave the house without brushing your teeth.
- An eye for an eye. A tooth for a tooth.
- Never talk to strangers on public transport.
- Money doesn’t buy happiness.
- People value you, on what you look like, not on who you are.
- Santa Claus is real.
It’s you core values that helps you decide which your statements you agree or disagree with. Think of them as your internal NAVI (navigation) system.
Some of your Core Values:
- Serve you and other don’t.
- Are fluid while other are fixed and unmoveable.
- Were passed to you and other you learned for yourself.
- Have grown stronger over the years.
- Have changed over time.
Va Va Voom, where are you?
Step 1 Know what truly drives you
“What today, in my life, is the most important to me?” And write down what every comes into your head. Take up to 5 minutes and write everything down, no filtering, no judgements. This is all you, all the time and no one else.
Next ask yourself:
“What does the word(s) [insert life area here] mean to me?”
- Physical Health
- Emotional Health
- Significant other
- Personal Growth
- Spiritual Growth
Spend the time to go through each question, taking about 2-5minutes answering each. Again, write down everything without censoring yourself. This exercise is about getting your values out of you and in writing.
Step 2 Find your top three values
Which three mean the most to you? Only you can answer this and your top three maybe immediately obvious but if not re-read and rate them 1-10.
Then for each of your top three values write your definition (what that values means to you) and your statement (what it means for you to be successfully living that value).
Value to me means…
Success in Value is…
“You’re demonstrating a courage that most people can’t even fathom: giving it all away in order to have yourself.” Iyanla Vanzant
If it’s not working, dream bigger
“There is enough realism in the world, it’s the dream action takers who create change in theirs and others lives.” Jamila T Jeffers
Step 3 Commit Yourself
Ask yourself, “How do my current life, work, and relationships reflect my core values?”
Step 4 Track the way you are spending your time
Over the next few days discover how much your core values are reflected in how you are living. Each time you do something that is an example one of you living core values write it down.
How you live your days becomes your reality and it is very common to find that your core values are not always being reflected in your day-to-day life.
That can be an uncomfortable realisation.
At times, there is a gulf that must be bridged that requires some life changes.
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